Learning To Let Go //

Dear Readers,

Learning to let go has to be one of the hardest things a person has to do. It can be a difficult process to deal with and so naturally we will find anything to prevent us from solving the issue at hand.

I hope to engage my readers in openly discussing more pressing personal issues and offering up advice where I can, so here are some ways you can learn to let go.

Now the process of moving on from something can be applied to so many different scenarios and circumstances. In the past year I have learnt to let go of routine, expectations, relationships and even friends. I truly understand how hard it is to move on from things in life that no longer serve us with a purpose.

It's important that you take your time when processing what it is you want or need to let go of and how you're going to do it. I found by writing a list of everything I wanted or needed to let go of, I was able to visually see how many negative things were still in my life.

I then split these negative things into categories; either as people, things or environments.

An example of each would be:

People - An ex boyfriend or girlfriend
Things - Consuming excessive alcohol
Environment - Your current workplace

From these categories I broke them down into two groups; things in my control and things that were not in my control. I soon realised how I could control nearly all of these areas of negativity in my life. Ultimately, I had the ability to remove myself from those people, things and situations.

Try to slowly remove these detrimental situations from your life. For example, if you have a friend who seems to use you to social climb, then slowly stop hanging out with them so much. Equally, if you work with someone who makes your life a more difficult than it needs to be, ask your boss if you can remove yourself from their presence.

I do understand that sometimes it is not easy to keep yourself away from those unfavourable situations. Instead I can only recommend that you are mindful of what you are feeling and balance it with something positive.

Here are 5 Ways To Let Go:

Reprocess thoughts - Try to avoid dwelling and instead replace those cynical feelings with something much more upbeat. Try to see the good in even the worst of situations.
Experience your emotions - It's integral to our human nature that we feel an array of emotions. Explore them and if they involve another person, try to discuss and work out why this is the case.
If it can be resolved, resolve it - Don't give up at the first occurrence. Chances are you're probably overthinking and worrying about it. Always remain rational. If there is no chance you can mend the situation then remove yourself from it.
Practice visualisation - This is a technique that has served me so well. Find a place in your mind where you can escape to when your thoughts send you into overthinking overdrive. Accompany this with breathing deeply and slowly to really
Stop the stalking! Anyone who says they've never stalked someone is a total liar! Social media has made it so easy to low-key keep in check with what other people are doing. I know it's tempting to check on your ex-best friend but now's the time to let go. Unfollow them and move on. It takes up so much of your time and doesn't leave you feeling good after either, so there is no real point to it.